I’ve loved the idea of having a family. I had told my parents, I’d like to be a father at some point even if I have to do it alone. I thought about surrogacy few years ago and what would be the least stressful way to go about it. I had many solo arguments as at times I thought about my own dreams and debated about the right time to be a dad. I thought about my own parents and many other parents; did they plan as extensively too? I guess a lot of us were unplanned and surprise babies. I was, and Hey… the early days may have been a struggle but it all worked out in the end didnt it?
The costs of surrogacy versus adoption was another battle I waded through… I couldnt bring myself to agree on spending so much money when one could adopt a child/baby who would flourish in a good home. But have you wondered what it takes to adopt in Nepal? I sat some nights reading links, adding more articles on the adoption folder I created. Watching people, incredibly lovely folks, who spent their time researching laws on adoption in Nepal on YouTube. I was convinced, this would be an even harder battle. The few stories I heard of people who have adopted did not put me at ease. Some ways were simply illegal.
A single Nepali man cannot adopt but a single Nepali woman can. Marriage between two men is not legal in Nepal, and we do not have the right to adopt. I dont know where I am in all this now… my family were super supportive at one point, they still are. I mean, it looks like I’m the only one who actually wants to be a parent. But seeing the tough road ahead has sort of paused this desire for now.
If you’ve read this far then drop an emoji so I know people still read. Just thought I’d ramble away today… also, there’s way too many articles about inter-country adoption (non-Nepalis adopting from Nepal) than in-country adoption; would love to hear stories from Nepali parents who have adopted from Nepal?
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